There are different versions of you that you bring to various endeavors and interactions. Some of those versions are more compelling, more interesting, more entertaining, and more persuasive than other versions. Because this is true, you need to be intentional about who you allow to show up.
The best version of yourself has energy. Other people can feel when that person shows up. The energy is high, and it is palpable. That energy has the power to move people, and it is infectious.
But you have a low-key, low-energy version of yourself, too. No one takes notice when you allow this person shows up. No one can feel you when you have no charge. You move no one. (And as much as you might want to believe that being an introvert means you can’t have this energy, you can’t escape the fact that an introvert with a great big smile has a better energy).
The better you shows up with a passion. That version cares deeply about the outcome of what it is you are engaged in. The fact that you are passionate is enough to change how people feel about you, as well as how they feel when they are around you.
The dispassionate you is not the best version that you have to offer. There is nothing sexy about not caring. Worse still is the cynical version of yourself you sometimes allow to show up. This version doesn’t win friends or influence people.
The best version of yourself is intentional. That version brings the passion, the energy, and the focus that allows you to produce the outcomes you intend to create. When the best you shows up, you achieve results even when you have no control over anything other than your state.
The lesser version you sometimes allow to show up is reactive. When you are unintentional, you allow yourself to drift, often resulting in your ending up somewhere you didn’t want to be.
It is wrong to withhold the best version of yourself. You deprive others of experiencing the best you have to offer. You allow the fear of being judged to keep you from turning up your thermostat and bringing a full dose of your energy, your passion, the true authentic you.
The version of you that entertains, that educates, that persuades, and that influences others has a presence. That presence is compelling. It’s attractive. It’s exciting. Don’t withhold that version of yourself.
Make sure that the version of you that shows up is your very best version.