There are some things that successful people do not say. They don’t “hate Mondays,” or believe that Wednesday is “hump day,” nor do they “thank God it’s Friday.” They aren’t “loving life,” or “living the dream.” These are things that people who are not successful say to themselves and each other, and it’s often a strong hint as to their mindset and some of their self-limiting beliefs.
There are a couple things that tend to be revealed by these statements, none of which are mutually exclusive. It may be that the person is ungrateful for what they already have, something that you are reminded of when you lose them. They may also believe that they have no agency, no control over who they are and what they do, instead being infected with the idea that the world is working on them.
Covey taught that the word “love” is a verb. It’s something more than a feeling you have towards another person; it’s an action that you can take. If you want to love your life, then love your life.
The starting point here is to be grateful for the life you have been given, and all the opportunities that come with it free and clear. No matter the circumstances of your birth, if you are reading this, 2,000,000,000 or more people were likely born into circumstances worse than yours. Many of them are grateful for what little they have, making it possible for you to be grateful for what you have.
To love your life, you have to invest in it. You have to invest in your physical health by taking care of yourself. You also have to love yourself enough to work on reaching your full potential, something none of us are close to, no matter how well you are doing now. You love your life by developing a vision of who you will become and becoming the person that comes after the person you are now.
Most of the way you are going to judge your life later is by your relationships. Loving your life means investing in relationships. Investing in relationships means giving them the time and emotional energy they deserve. Love your life enough to go first as it pertains to making investments in relationships.
There are people who tell you not to compare yourself to others, that doing so is a recipe for suffering. That idea is not exactly right. If your neighbor’s grass is greener than yours, it’s because they are taking better care of theirs. The difference between your results and someone else’s comes down to whether or not you love your life enough to invest more into it to produce the results you want.