You have one life. It is given to you free and clear of any obligation. Because this is true, you and you alone are responsible for what you make of your life while you are here. It is up to you how you design your life, what you do with it, what you refuse to do with it, and what contribution you make.
The word “uncompromising” means you refuse to make any concessions. It strongly suggests that you are unwilling to negotiate, including negotiating with yourself. The idea of being unwilling to compromise can sound selfish, and under certain circumstances, it can be. As it pertains to your single life, however, the fact that it is singular and doesn’t provide for a do-over, you must be uncompromising in what you want.
There are two primary areas where you might compromise that prevents you from having a life of your design.
The compromised beliefs of a negative mindset will do more to harm your results than almost anything else.
The belief that you are a victim, that the circumstances of your birth preclude you having the life you want for yourself, or that others are responsible for your life, is evidence of a compromised belief system. So are beliefs that lead to learned helplessness, stories about lacking resources others have in abundance, or ones about your past failures defining your future. You might settle for less than you want because you believe it is too late that you have somehow “aged out,” even though it is never too late.
There are countless stories you can tell yourself about why what you want isn’t possible for you, but because there are people who have what you want, it is available to you. The reason other people have what you want is that they believed they should have it and were obsessive and passionately engaged in bringing their vision to life. They refused to compromise their belief about what was possible or that what they wanted was unavailable to them, even if it meant they were first to become the kind of person that could produce the result they wanted for themselves.
Most of what you believe to be “impossible” is an infection you have picked up from the belief systems of the people around you and the cultural norms of the communities to which you belong, the compromised beliefs of those who accept things as they are. These beliefs are installed, and unless you uninstall your limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering beliefs, you will compromise.
Start with a vision of what you want and adopt the beliefs that allow you to bring that vision to life. Your vision is your own, and no one else’s opinion matters, as they have their own life; they can choose for themselves whether or not to be uncompromising.
Most people are willing to compromise their effort, in part because of their compromised beliefs, but more often because they compromise their effort. They seek comfort instead of the energy necessary to have what they want. There has never been a time where there were more distractions and novelties to capture attention and drag you away from the very few things that matter, especially the work necessary to design and live the life available to you.
Even when you know what you want, it is easy to negotiate with yourself, promising you will do the work to bring your vision to life later after you’ve had a chance to recover from a long day at work. You’ll spend time with the people you care about when things slow down. You’ll enjoy your life later, once you retire.
You always pay the price for procrastinating, putting off what you should do now until later, increasing your stress level, and giving yourself less time than you need to produce the very best result. When it comes to your life, the price you pay for procrastinating is too high.
Success in living a life of your design requires that you be uncompromising in your effort to live that life. You cannot compromise your effort, negotiating with yourself that you will build the life you want later. You have to create that life now.
A comprised life is one in which you settle for less than what you want. It’s one in which you accept things as they are, giving up the belief that you can have the life you wish to and one in which you give up trying.
An uncompromised life is one in which your beliefs support you in your attempt to build the life you want and the inspired actions necessary to make it so. While there is no guarantee you will succeed in creating the experience you see in your mind’s eye, it is guaranteed you won’t have the life you want if you are willing to compromise.
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